Thomas More College

Helping Your Student Overcome Homesickness

Here are a few tips to help you:

  1. Much of what your student knows and can rely on is back home. Homesickness is a natural response to this transition period. Allow your student to admit and talk about how they feel.
  2. Encourage them to talk about it with an older sibling or friend who has gone away from home. It takes strength to accept the fact that something is bothering them and to confront it.
  3. Encourage your student to bring familiar items from home to your new location. Photos, plants, even stuffed animals help to give one a sense of continuity and ease the shock of a new environment.
  4. Assist your student to familiarize himself/herself with their new surroundings. Walk around the campus and buildings with them. All of you will feel more comfortable if you know where buildings, classes, and services are.
  5. Suggest that they invite people along to explore the campus. Making friends is a big step to alleviating homesickness.
  6. Encourage your student to keep in touch with the people back home, but put a limit on telephoning. Suggest they write, email or text you reports of their activities and new experiences. Let them know you'd like to hear from them, too.
  7. Plan a date for your student to come home and encourage them to make arrangements. This often helps curtail impulsive returns and keeps them focused on their goals in staying.
  8. Encourage your student to seek new opportunities. As scary as it is to see all those people, all those classes, all those buildings, all those choices, they will provide opportunities to meet people. Suggest they get involved in something that interests them or try new ones.
  9. If they continue to feel homesick encourage them to do something. Don't wait for it to go away by itself. Buried problems often emerge later disguised as headaches, fatigue, illness, or lack of motivation.

*Adapted from University of Wisconsin- Eau Claire Counseling Services

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Residence Hall Parents

At Thomas More College, we believe that a residence hall is a home-away-from-home, a campus community and a place where our students can live and learn is a safe environment. Community building is our goal. Every student living on campus has something to contribute and something to learn. Students living on campus have chosen to be part of an environment that promotes the exchange of ideas, knowledge, experience, and support. We are confident that your student will take away a great deal of knowledge and growth from their experiences as a resident student.

To accomplish this, all students have certain rights and responsibilities. First, the right to pursue their studies in a pleasant, secure environment. Second, the responsibility of knowing the rules and community standards and abiding by these policies. Specific regulations and policies are clearly outlined in the housing contract, the Housing Handbook, and the Student Handbook.

If you or your students can any questions or concerns, please contact the Residence Life Coordinator. More information can be found on the residence life website.

Staff

There are several individuals on campus to assist residence students.

Residence Life Coordinator - full-time staff member who oversees all operations of residence life.

Resident Assistant - the RA serves as the main contact between Student Life and our resident students. The RA is responsible for programming, community building, assisting is crisis situations, and enforcing policies. Your student should not hesitate to contact their RA if they have any problems, questions, or concerns.

Community Assistant - the CA's are full-time students and part of the administrative staff under the direction of the Residence Life Coordinator. The CA's build community in the halls and assist with programming.

Guest and Visitation

Guests are welcome to visit their hosts as long as all roommates agree upon the length of the visit. Visitation periods may be held in all residential facilities during the hours established. The opposite gender may not stay overnight in any residential facility. All students are expected to observe these policies.

Roommate Conflicts

Sharing a room with another person can sometimes result in situations that are stressful. If a student is having a roommate conflict, he or she can talk with the Resident Assistant or the Residence Life Coordinator. If mediation does not help the situation, room switches are allowed, provided that space is available. Room changes should occur after the Office of Residence Life grants permission and will be allowed only during approved room change periods.

Opening and Closing

Students will not be permitted in residence halls prior to the official hall opening and will not be allowed to stay past the official closing (special circumstances approval by the RLC). The residence halls are open during Fall, Spring, and Thanksgiving breaks and are closed between semesters. A student must leave the residence hall within 24 hours of the end of his or her last final exam each semester and no later than the published official closing date. Students for whom this presents excessive hardships should contact the Office of Residence Life. Please see the academic calendar or contact the Office of Residence Life for opening and closing dates.

Personal Property

All goods and property of a student are the responsibility of the student, and the College is not liable for any loss or damage. Students are strongly encouraged to have insurance (through a homeowner's or renter's policy) to protect their belongings.

Fire Safety

The College takes fire safety very seriously. All of our residence halls are equipped with modern alarm systems that alert residents if the possibility of a fire exists. Students are required to evacuate College-owned buildings in the event that a fire alarm sounds and must refrain from tampering with or disabling fire safety equipment. As an additional safety measure, open flames such as candles and incense burners are prohibited. Violations of fire safety policies are subject to judicial action including a fine and/or removal from housing.

Safety & Security

During posted hours, a Residence Life staff person is on duty to assist residents with concerns. The on-duty staff makes regular rounds through the buildings to help ensure that the needs of residents are being met. Phones outside each residence hall enable visitors to contact residents, or in an emergency, to contact the Safety Office. In an effort to protect the security of residents and their belongings, students who prop open residence hall doors will be fined $100.

Keys

Each resident will be issued the appropriate keys to gain entry to his/her assigned room. If keys are lost, stolen, or not returned for any other reason, students will be charged $50 per key to cover the cost of lock changes. Failure to return College keys within 24 hours of moving out will also result in an improper checkout charge of $50. Additionally, College keys should not be reproduced; such action is subject to judicial action.